We have a tendency to
live our lives as if we have two of them, one personal and one work
related. However it is a misapprehension to believe that we can separate
Personal factors will always play a role in our business lives, and
vice versa. The underlying factors are that all aspects of our lives
are driven and directed by unconscious mechanisms that have been cultivated
since childhood. These relate to patterns of behaviour which in turn
influence each decision we make, and how we communicate with others.
Therefore it can be deemed that the only things hindering us in our
paths are the ways in which we have learnt to evaluate and deal with
events and situations that arise.
In coaching, our aim is to discover what these mechanisms are, how they
affect our ability to deal with things in our lives and how best to
distinguish them. By acknowledging and adapting our behaviour we are
able to release new power and energy that was previously being used
The results of these changes are immediately visible, releasing more
energy, more time, more clarity and reducing stress levels, while also
helping to build profound relationships with colleagues, friends and
As individuals we have taken years to adapt and justify our non-efficient
behaviour patterns, therefore the aim of the initial conversation with
the coach or mentor will be to highlight and understand these patterns.
The key to success lies in our ability to discover and understand our
own mechanisms and behaviours and learn how best to deal with them.
This then leaves us free to make decisions that are not based purely
on our emotions, reactions and interpretations.
Every human being is a unique individual and as such we have become
masters at avoiding our real needs; however coaching can highlight these
needs and improve your ability to deal with them in a more efficient
This coaching cannot be replaced by simply reading a book or visiting
a motivational seminar. The individual approach and focus on you as
an individual allows success.